Fragrance

Hi there,

It’s that time of the year when all the men are thinking what do I get. What do I do? Should I ask the secretary or personal assistant to purchase that one gift that only I should be purchasing. Then the flip  side is she isn’t my mother so why should I purchase or acknowledge her in anyway.  I laugh at that thought, mainly I would have to say there isn’t a married woman that doesn’t think of herself as her husbands mom. Not literally, however if your married long enough there is at least one moment in time the person married to you has become your mom to help you succeed. That’s love.

If you don’t believe me here are some sample:

1. You didn’t want to go to work and wanted to take a what I call a mental health day. You didn’t want you boss to know so you asked your wife to call work for you.
2. You didn’t want to visit mom for a holiday, blamed the wife, kids or family. She heard you didn’t argue and carried the blame for you.
3. You asked her not to do something, it reminds you of mom. Bad childhood memories.
4. You asked her to massage your neck and shoulders after work. They hurt and your stressed out. You taught her exactly what you like stating that’s how mom did it.
5. You like your cloths in a certain way or the laundry folded a certain way. She does it why? It pleases you.  Why? That’s how mom did it.
6. She makes certain recipes that are just like mom made. However, she never makes it good enough. You just don’t want to be married to mom.
7. The coffee in the morning has to be a certain brand. Breakfast placed a certain way. That’s just what you grew up with.
8. You don’t want her or anyone else to know how much the smells of childhood bring back memories you love. This might be mom.

Therefore, this year as I was thinking what to purchase my own mother I went on a hunt for the scent of my youth. I would smell her frangrence when I was a child. Not a hug or a touch just when she walked by. I would think that’s mom. I walked into the fragrance department and thought. How lovely it smelled. Like flowers, feminist, style and elegance. It was definitely a day for men to be shopping for all the sales people smelled of fragrance from spraying it all day. 

I thought to myself. Do my own children remember my frangrence? Does my husband? Now my ex. If he does this is the time for me to use it. Just joking. I enjoy the thought that when you plan weddings one of the most thought about moments is what will the frangrence be. If too strong it will overwhelm the guest if too little it will go unnoticed. Therefore, I say to all husbands, sons, lovers, boyfriends purchase your girl a fragrance that will forever remind you of each other. For there is one thing we know in the world, love saves. Even if you din’t have the best wife, mother or lover, the frangrence will serve as an alarm and you can rung. Just joking! It really is a way of showing how much you care.

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A Wedding Planning Session

I plan weddings. I plan meetings! I plan event! I do love what I do! What is it that honors a man? God? What is pleasing? What is good? We are good in our own eyes, however is good, good?

Years ago my sister wanted me to plan her children's weddings. I prayed, thought, pondered and because I run a business I asked her how much she w*s willing to pay me. She then explain she wanted it for free. At that point I respectfully declined which angered her.

Here is the thing. If it cost $35, OOO est.to plan a wedding times three. Honestly I couldn't afford it. Her and her husband needed to be willing to pay for her own children's wedding. I offered advice, however that wasn't good enough. She wanted free things. Decor venue, food. I can't afford it, I said. Items to start their household. The anger grew more intense and that's when I learn driving with the cell phone on isn't a good thing. I'd receive angry phone calls. Stressed out mother of the bride or groom yelling at me to give her things. Cell phones today let people know their driving. I wish there was a button you could turn the phone off and still use the other apps. Like music and maps.

What I think is most important is parents understand it is their responsibility to pay for their children's wedding. No one else unless they offer. The event planner doesn't ask grandma for money for or aunty Flo. We have a contract with the parents of the bride or the bride and groom. That is usually the  case. The couple about to get married  if they are responsible enough to desire to get married they are responsible enough to pay the vendors they want to plan it. We don't have an abundance of free items to give you for your wedding , event. We have them when our vendors give them to us. Then we pass it forward. 

Here is what I recommend. Take time and figure out some goals or dates you want things to happen. How much money you want to spend. How much money you can afford from each paycheck. Then you have the beginning of your budget. Life lessons are difficult sometimes, take time to learn them. If I would of had the money and all the free things she wanted I would have given it to her. I didn't.

What is it Opera says: " you do the best you can with what you know. When you know better you do better."

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Dad Leave Mom Leave Pros of Paternity Leave

Hi there,

I'm here to ask you Dad Leave?  Like Mom Leave? I was recently reading a tweet on social media that's trending right now. As many of you know who follow my blogs I tend to have an opinion that doesn't always fall within the norms of society or social media. It read "Dad Leave in theory." Taking about taking time off work after the delivery of a baby. The truth is its called parental leave. Most corporation have this option for parents. Don't they? With a little planning you can create it for yourself.

I think if possible parents should use their vacation time, holidays, sick leave and anything else they have for the first few weeks after baby is born. What qualifies me to speak this way and voice my opinion. Years of being a preschool teacher, preschool director, volunteering in missions, teaching bible study and vacation bible study to children, also establishing several schools for not only my church, also the YMCA. 

During the first few weeks of baby being home there is a great deal of sleep loss for parents. Mom's, womanes your lovers are not in their normal pattern of behavior. They are emotional and physically challenged. This is normal. It especially happens with first baby, second baby one knows what to expect. It takes time for the body to heal. Sharing the responsibility of raising children and helping mom get back on schedule would be great if both parent were avaiable. Therefore, I personally feel this would be a great idea. Paternity leave for both parents in order for them to have time to adjust to being a new parent.

If dad could take the kids to school without worrying he's going to be late to work, the stress would be  off and I have seen it create a better marriage, better family, better workplace. The reverse is also true. If dad stayed up with the feedings then mom can do the extra things in the mornings.it's important for both to bond with baby.

Here are some tips.

1. As soon as you know mom is pregnant. You know it will take 9 months. That's normal time.  Tell the work place sometime between this month and this month I will be taking time off. The moth before the baby is due and the month after. 

2. Calculate time you have. Vacation time and sick leave. If you have paternity leave add that if you don't. Find out what other options you have.

3. Ask mom when she would like you to take time off. Since she can stay in the hospital up to three days for natural childbirth, have her do so. I'm sharing this from experience. With my first child I came home right away, after 24 hours and regrets. Had to ask for help from family, due to they birth canel completely healing. The second child, I took the doctors advice and stayed the three days. I am so glad. 

(I want any man reading this and be forwarded she'll hate you if you touch that part of her. The pain is greater than you imagine.) 

4. Having her choose will give her a feeling of having some control in the situation. There are many "ifs" when a woman is pregnant. Knowing your in the parenting together will help her.

5. Once she explains her thoughts than do the best you can. It will be okay.

For parents adopting the parenternity leave should be work out according to the delivery or pick up date of the child I'm not sure what they call it.

This what I have witness parenternity leave do for a family.

1. Bonding between family members.

2. The love between couple grows, due to understanding and gentalness.

3. Dad's that are overworked,  Overstreet get to witness those first few days that make the children / parent relationship.

4. Dad's feel more a part of the family.

5. Dreams, wishes and expectations for the child are spoken in whispers. That's as good as it gets between a couple. Don't wake baby before his time.

6. There is nothing as gentle as the touch of holding a newborn in your hands.

7. It is a gift from God above, even if you don't believe it God, you will. It's His will.

ThIs is not the the answer to a perfect marriage. It the beginning of a relationship with a child. You may or may not have made the decision to have. Having it him or her is the beginning of blessings. Sometimes good sometimes bad, count them all blessing. 

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Is Starbucks The Lead

Hi there,

Social media and computer saavy Starbucks is taking a lead in the employee education of social media. The coffee mogal has decided to close many of its stores. What is it exactly that you would tell your employees about social media.

If I place myself in this franchise company and am using my computer to do some of the work I need to get done. "Do you apple?" #iapple "Isn't this how it all was started? Ya, I apple but I don't want you up in my business." When is it sexual harassment? 

After years of Starbucks accepting this, what are the going to say to employees? Please don't allow social media. People aren't enjoying it anymore. That's what Starbucks is there known for. Isn't it?

Politely have customer satisfaction over social media. Maybe they will post a sign, no social media while on computer. Social medial only accept while #iphone. I don't enjoy being on my phone in public places do you? Really, our society is suffering from social and if we go the other extreme is prejuduice. Where is the balance between showing people your not prejuduice, you just don't want to be social in public places with strangers. You don't mind talking to them you just don't want to be up in their business.

It's a really tuff balance and I congratulate Starbucks for attempting something bigger than them. We will all be watching.

Thanks for leading th way for us smaller businesses.

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How Social is Social? Workplace Questions?

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I was thinking about the work / peer relationships how it affects the workplace.

Let's define:

so·cial

ˈsōSHəl/

adjective

1. 1.

   relating to society or its organization.

   
   

   "alcoholism is recognized as a major social problem"

   synonyms:

   communal, community, collective, group, general, popular, civil, public, societal "a major social problem"
2. 2.

   ZOOLOGY

   (of a bird) gregarious; breeding or nesting in colonies.

   synonyms:

   gregarious, interactional;  organized "a uniquely social animal"

noun

1. 1.

   an informal social gathering, especially one organized by the members of a particular club or group.

   
   

   "a church social"

   synonyms:

   party, gathering, function, get-together, soirée; celebration, reunion, jamboree;  informalbash,shindig, do "the club has a social once a mont so·cial me·di·a noun websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking.

Social media are computer-mediated technologies that facilitate the creation and sharing of information, ideas, career interests and other forms of expression via virtual communities and networks. Wikipedia

When your in school you have your friends your with. By the time your in college the circle of friends usually get smaller. One has a good time finding people with the same common interest, goals and likes. Healthy competition makes people become better. The thing is we learn what we are about. Yes, I mean oneself. Getting to know others helps define who we are and how we accept others or do we force others?

That's why I am finding the influence of social media interesting. I don’t really know what we called it when I was in college. Maybe it was friends, friendship. How does social media affect the lives of social people? Do we stop being good friends, shen we call it social? It is interesting. One has to ask the question is what is written in social media truthful? How does one know truth from lies? Influences are there to influence what you purchase and how you see products. Retailing should not be forced. This is like drinking alcohol or drugs we are told to say no is acceptable. No! Don't drink alcohol and drive.

How does that define the workplace when the boundaries of social, social media, and friend all become one big fine line. Does this mean if I have thousands of following do I turn that into my employer when the position they offer? Although then the question of who I am comes into question. Why should I turn over my social media when I am the one that worked t building it. They get and understand what my goals are. Do I sell my following for a price?  If I do sell how d-es one price such a thing? All questions yet to be unanswered.

Know who your with. If you have a following, make sure you know your boundaries are. Test your social media to see if they speak truth or lies into life. If you feel threatened in anyway call the police. 911 or your local number for non emergency.

Summarizing this blog.

1.  Understand the difference between being social at work with co-workers and social media.

2. Test truth spoken with actions and behavior.

3. Make sure your following in social media is not following you in real life. Unless it's an appointment made and agreed upon. There are laws against stocking a person. Following them in real life for the sake of following them.

4,  if threaten in spirt thought or truth. 9all the police . If need to seek medical advice.

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Does Social Media Have a Place In Meetings?

Hi there,

As you may have read I enjoy social media etiquette. Therefore, as I was writing about the gossip part of social on my blog Diamond Glamor Girls I was thinking about business and how social media is used.

Social Media In Business Etiquette.

1. There are not too many CEO's who tell people when and where their board meetings are. (Private)
2. Socials also known as Creative  and Executives are not the same. One runs their own business, being responsible to themselves. The executive is responsible to himself and many people. Therefore information is private.
3. Executives don't have the time to constantly post what they are doing in social situations. If they post a post that can hurt their business they could get fired.
4. Create a position (salaried with medical benefits) for a person to handle all your social media.
5. If you are a executive you might need a person like a personal assistant jut to deal with it your social. This would be your personal social. Helping you stay private.

The importance of social is learning when and where, what is important to post and what isn't. 

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Burn Out!

Hi there,

I was looking for a new book to read. When it occurred to me, what I am experiencing when I saw a title of a book. The title was "Burn Out" . I love reading, sitting quiet and listening to music.

At that point I realized. Many people must feel the same thin. Work, family, elderly parents, neighbors,  friends, all want. Even a pizza isn't divided as much as I feel. "I'm more pieces than a pizza."  They all want a piece, money, times,  fed me, meet my needs, emotions and my business. Who takes care of me?

Here are a few coping skills I have added to my list of was to help me cope. Maybe they will help you.

1. I am going through my phone and seeing which apps really help me be productive, which one done don't. Deleting the ones that don't. No offense to the app manufacturer it just doesn't work for me. Ex: coupon app the coupons are for buy one get one at a lower price. The truth is I'm single, I go out to eat. I either waste money going out to eat or food buying in bulk. The choice is mine to make. What is right for you isn't right for me.
2. Music soothes even in the most difficult situations.
3. Take time to plan what's important for the week, them  push the other things to next week.
4. Plan time for self care. manicure, pedicure, massage, haircut, hairstyling, visit the doctor for your yearly checkup. Stay on top of what is important to you! What matters most!
5. Knowing oneselve is important to ones mental health. No one should have mind control over you. I think it is Princess Kate who is bringing it to the attention of others how important mental health is. Reading someone mind is out. In the age of computer, one can look it up faster that another's thoughtless. Ride over.

I hope you enjoyed my "Burn Out" tip. Best of luck to you! Like, subscribe, tell a friend, read disclaimer on communication page.