2018 Goal

Hi there, Reader:

It is important to know oneself in the midst of all the luxury items I work around. Have you ever been surrounded by beautiful things, people, places and then you walk into your life and its average or below average if you are like me who has had to start over in an unexpected time.

This by no means is a complaint. I am a college graduate, a CEO of a business,entrepreneur , business woman, author and some what accomplish as others have told me. Somehow in the midst of all those accomplishments the house and home can be judged by others. You see to them my average house wasn't good enough, because they had bigger, better, more. They had more money, better cars, a life as seen on TV and I didn't choose it. I choose the place that I did.

The abundant life where more , bigger, better, is never ending. There is always someone to be better than, make more money than, compete with. The thing is I through my personal experience have found they are not any happier or less happier of those that have less and still experience the same things. Peer pressure is something all ages experience. I could of , should of , would of are all excuses. The truth is my simple quiet lifestyle I enjoy. Why?  I see the rich, I see the famous, I have seen the homeless, I have seen the hunger. I have helped, served and been helped and been served. What makes one different than the other? Attitude.

Why then would I want to write a goal and share it with you. to encourage you to continue doing your best you can. That's all we can do. I am like I said an writer, author, business woman who now has a few personal goals of her own.

1. To be paid to speak. I plan events and ever though about selling my story until this year. I would love the opportunity to speak about what it is like to be an event planner. Maybe event talk about the importance of woman in business.
2. Complete writing my book. "Wedding Planning Planner"(c)TM   A book to help people plan a wedding, hire the correct event planner and still succeed at being themselves.
3. Purchase a house and make it my own.  A home to live in, succeed in being myself in.

I also have other personal goal like enjoy my life the best I can regardless of my circumstances. Continue to learn new things and leave the past in the past. Little by little improve my photography skills and post them on Instagram @Nodsish I am so trying not to be this person who just collects a following  rather I have recently tried posting a photograph where I was trying to work on different photography skills such as composition, color, angel and ask those who view it if I really caught it or not. The reason I ask is not because I want to build my ego although it is important to have good self-esteem. I ask questions to know your opinion a a follower. Like when I paint a painting, sometimes I thing I caught it painted it and then I walk away and realize it's still not there. That's how I see photography. I can always edit the photography to accomplish the goal. My goal is to take a photo I don't have to edit. Edits like in writing can change the meaning, thoughts and intention. The fun at this point is to take the photo and accept what is seen. trying to get it right the first time. I now take my camera to events, something I never use to do. I thought it a conflict of interest. Today it is most acceptable. For those photographs you can look at Instagram @MKPDE

I hope you enjoyed reading this blog. You see without goals we just are wondering in life. It doesn't matter where you are in life. You can just live aimlessly. What a goal does is give you a direction.  What direction do you want your life to go in? List one Goal you'd like to accomplish in 2018.

Like, subscribe tell a friend.   Disclaimer on communications tab. Let me know what your goal is for 2018. Lets try our best to succeed, big or small. All we can do is our best.

Blow UP!

Hi there, Reader;

Have you ever had a project blow up in your face? Have you ever experienced a presentation blow-up?  I remember when I first begin in the business world and was young and always worried about how I would do what my boss wanted me to do. He or she was called a boss then, today I believe it is a superior or an executive. I recently witnessed the age discrimination when men wanted to meet a person and they fell short of their expectations. They were not young enough of their fantasy wasn't met. Whatever, the reason here are a few coping skills met along the way. Or shall I say I learned along the way.

When it blows up:

•  You can address the issue with the person. Although, I honestly think they will denied that it happened or that they were trying to sabotage you. I would try this first and when the NO! or the STOP doesn't work. The over the top accusation in the workplace don't go over well. Then show them what you are made of. Not literally let them just experience the reality that you are not willing to allow it.  It doesn't mean it didn't happen it just means the person wants more than you are wiling to give them and you are not responsible for their ambition.
• Get a witness. First make sure you don't tell the witness anything. So they can help you. It has to be a person or persons you know will do right by you. It might take more than one person you know especially in the workplace. We all have our own interest in mind in the workplace. We are so called responsible for ourselves and no one else. Therefore, you have to make sure that the person you ask for help from will not end up betraying you. 
• You if possible video it, film it, photograph the moment of blow up if you can. Whether it's you getting nervous making a presentation, or when you are trying to put your things together, meet a deadline or just trying to put a project together. Your goal is to succeed in what you do. No for anyone other than to do the job you were hired to do. I believe these moments define the person.
• Handle each moment with a great deal of patience for yourself. Yes, you have to care about yourself, before others care for you. That means stop any self sabotaging thoughts. You are not required to think bad things or self defeating thoughts about yourself just because someone else wants you to.
• Keep private things private. The workplace is never the place to share your personal business. If you went out and partied all weekend and show up to work a mess. They will know it. You don't have to share it. Let's face it we are all human and we either covet success or denie it. Self destruction is not what business is about. However, life happens to the best of us. I'd hate to think what happens to the worse of us. 
• Make sure if it is your superior you ask them when the next monetary compensation date is. It is customary that if you have to prove faith in the workplace you are monetary compensated for the experience both with dollars and medical benefits.

Thank you for reading this blog. The above photograph was a download from dreamtime.com. Like usual please read the disclaimer at the end of this blog. I was not paid by any business I might have mentioned in this blog. If you have any comments please leave in the box below or email me your thoughts of what you would like me to blog about next at mkpurediamondevents@gmail.com

Unemployment

Hi there, Reader;

As many of you know and understand since 2003 I have owned a meeting and Event company. However, since I'm a single mom, who has elderly people to watch over. Life isn't always easy.  This is not a woo is me blog or feel sorry for me it's my reality. This is the second time in this time that I have been unemployed. I have always had to have two employments and continue my education in the ever fast changing event world. As technology changes so does the way people interact with one another.

I am highly impressed with what unemployment is trying to do for its people. I know it sounds silly or ridiculous that I would be impressed with a government institutions with all that is happening in the world. What is talked about. The North County San Diego office is very good at helping it's people. From the little things like getting your resume online to making sure you recieve your card from Bank America to get paid. Here is what also expressed me, they cared enough to ask me since I was unemployed did I have enough to eat. More than my friends of many years have asked. When hard times hit, that's when one knows who a friend and who was just there for the good times. Good wife, right?

I hope you never have to experience what I have as a woman business owner. With technology being everywhere the world changed and it changed the lives of many. If your one of those who followed my family and I then you know some of our struggles. Like many Americans the reality of aging parents, teenagers, college students and the ever changing high expectations of self sufficientcy we place on our youth. It's nice to know, there are still a few agency were we can get assistance when we need it.

First you can get your computer skills checked by several agencies that will certify you for typing skills some are for a fee and some are free. Once certified you wil know which ones you qualify for. I'll write a list below.

Second : Are you hungry? Apply for what use to be food stamps is now called CalFresh. There are workshops you can attend every Monday.

Third: you have to establish identity. Citizensship and employment to recieve unemployment. US Passport or US Card. The list is lengthy.

Fourth: Register with North County Career Center for resume writing, employment search and motivation.

Fifth: iI also have a list of agencies you can contact if you need help.

Sixth: Apply for employment or to enhance your job search with www.caljobs.ca.gov.

I'll have all of this posted for you in the next day or so. Til then, get ready...the goal in life is to live a Happy, healthy, productive life.

Disclaimer:

This is a personal weblog. The opinions expressed here represent my own and not those of my employer.

In addition, my thoughts and opinions change from time to time I consider this a necessary consequence of having an open mind.

This weblog is intended to provide a semi-permanent point in time snapshot and manifestation of the various memes running around my brain, and as such any thoughts and opinions expressed within out-of-date posts may not the same, nor even similar, to those I may hold today.

This blog disclaimer is subject to change at anytime without notifications.